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When you look for a therapist, you’re recognizing that something doesn’t feel right. Often, you don’t know exactly what. You’ve tried self-help websites, podcasts, apps, and TedTalks but, you still aren’t getting to the root of it. That brings you here, to someone who can help you figure out what’s going on.

I have expertise in men’s issues, grief, trauma, anxiety, depression, addiction recovery (please be three months sober), and spirituality. I know how to help you figure out what’s not working in your life and change it for the better.

If you work with me, we’re not going to look at what’s wrong with you, but rather at what’s happened to you and how you developed a set of strategies to cope with that. Often the strategies worked in the original situations: home and family, school and sports but, not in your current life. Stifling and repressing your emotions might have worked then but no longer works now in the bedroom, boardroom or family room.

Psychological Work Specializing in Men’s Emotional Issues

I have 22 years of experience. I work well with men who are curious about what they’re feeling emotionally and want to develop the courage to feel and express themselves. Many men are taught not to express anything other than anger or happiness. At about 8 years old, we find out that the model of masculinity we’re supposed to copy is repressive and toxic. Feelings of anxiety, fear, worry, sadness and grief aren’t acceptable. Often men come to me after a heart attack, life-threatening illness or major loss (of a spouse, child or job), because they need to learn to feel.

As men grow up, they become alienated from themselves. They start to feel that there is ‘something wrong with me’ because they aren’t allowed to feel and express themselves. That also means men can’t learn how to trace their feelings back to the sources and decide if the feeling is based in a real cause or an invented cause. (Invented causes would be misinterpretations, false assumptions, and false thoughts in general.) As a result, they can’t mature normally since emotion is “energy in motion” and is the brain’s way of telling us that attitudes and behaviors need to change.

In relationships with others, men often seem lost. They find themselves unable to express love, interpret how they’re feeling, or discuss their feelings with their spouses, friends, and business partners. Men either get angry and shut down or go right into shutting down: leading to failures in personal and business relationships.

If you work with me, together we’ll figure out what you’re feeling and thinking, and how to use thoughts and feelings in a beneficial way. Paying attention to truthful and relevant thoughts and feelings can make a major difference in your life.

Working together means that things will gradually get easier. I work hard, offering you constructive dialog, lots of questions, and ‘homework’ to help you to integrate your understanding of yourself into real change in your life. I ask you to ‘work hard’ to by holding to your responsibilities as a client (see Your Responsibilities… below).

Spiritual Work for All People (Individual and Group Work)

If you’d like to work towards spiritual awakening, I can teach you meditation and mindfulness practices that I’ve been working with for 35 years. These will get you in touch with a deep, silent, pristine aspect of yourself called Awareness. In conjunction with the psychological changes described above, you will be able to make fundamental changes that create ever-increasing peace, compassion and truthfulness in your life.

I’ve been teaching people the path of spiritual wakening for 20 years. I can help to guide you on your own spiritual path. You have a choice of individual work and group work to help you. (See Groups on this website.)

Your Responsibilities as a Client or Student

  • Four weekly sessions in a row to start the work.
  • Continued weekly or bi-weekly sessions after the initial four weekly sessions.
  • Book your own appointments on my website and pay the fees then. (Or pay me by cash or check at the time of the session.)
  • Make changes in your life based on the insights you gain.
  • Cancel with a minimum of 24 hours’ notice or pay the full fee for the missed session (unless seriously ill, or family emergency).
  • Tell me when you’re ready to stop working together and say a formal goodbye.

Seven (7) Insurance Policies Accepted

Aetna, Meritain and Trustmark; All Savers, Optum, United Behavioral Health, and United Healthcare. You pay your deductible until it’s met, then pay a copay (usually $15 to $50 per session.) I bill your insurance company directly via electronic billing and they pay me the balance.

Private Pay Sliding Scale

If you don’t have one of the above insurance plans, or are doing spiritual mentoring, I maintain a simple sliding scale based on verifiable annual employment and/or investment income (the summary page of last year’s income tax return).

  • If you make under $100,000 per year, you pay $100 per session.
  • Make $100,000 to $200,000 per year, you pay $150 per session.
  • $200,000 to $300,00 per year, you pay $250 per session.
  • Above $300,000 per year, you pay $350 per session.

Come have a cup of tea and an initial conversation (the fee applies) so that we can discover if we work well together. Send me an email via the contact form to arrange a visit.

(If you’d like, you can read more about how I work with you, and about my background.)

I work in my office and via video for people who live in Pennsylvania and are interested in psychotherapy and/or spiritual awakening. I work by video for those around the world interested in spiritual awakening. 

 

 

Recent Writings

A Guide to Enlightenment

A Guide to Enlightenment

Here's a vision statement as I move from therapist to Enlightenment Guide over the next 6 months of 2020: We envision a world where everyone knows that they are Awareness Itself, Truth and Ananda (Love-Bliss-Freedom-Peace) so they can bring peace, open-hearted dialog,...

Alone or All One

Alone or All One

Alone or All One It occurred to me today that when we human beings speak about feeling or being alone, what we mean is that our ego-minds are isolated within ourselves and they end up chattering to themselves.  No one else hears the contents of our minds, except us,...

Integration after Awakening: Deconstructing So-Called ‘Truths’

Integration after Awakening: Deconstructing So-Called ‘Truths’

What happens to you when it dawns on you that what you are is more than your mind and its ideas of itself?  When you discover the Awareness or Consciousness that you are, how does it change the way you live? Since thoughts aren’t the interpreters of reality, they will...